Tuesday, August 9, 2011

The Secrets Our Body Clocks Reveal

At the end of Chapter 4.
Tips for Easing the Blues: If you are suffering from a depression that is prolonged or seriously interfering with your life, you should seek professional counseling and care. However, if your depressed state is due to a mild case of the blues, you can take several rhythm-related steps to brighten your mood:
  • Keep as regular a daily routine as possible.
  • Make sure you get a full, restful night's sleep. This means keeping a regular bedtime and sleeping for as long as you need (see chapter 3).
  • Get outside in the sunshine as often as possible at least fifteen minutes each day.
  • Use special high-spectrum lights for your indoor lighting wherever possible.
  • Minimize the desynchronizing effect of stress on your body's rhythms by practicing relaxation and other stress- reducing techniques.
Chapter Five

Your Sexual Cycles

Never the time and the place
And the loved one all together!
--ROBERT BROWNING
Never the Time and the Place
Soon after they were married, Karen and John decided to use natural family planning *  as their method of birth control. This meant that Karen had to learn to read the monthly physical changes in her body so she and John could abstain from making love during the few days she was fertile. It was a hassle for Karen and far from foolproof, but she and John chose natural family planning *  because of their religious beliefs and their concern about the safety of many other forms of birth control.
During the first few months of using the method, Karen was so busy watching for the signs of fertility that she didn't notice another, less obvious, change that was also part of her cycle. Around the fifth month, the pattern became so clear that she couldn't ignore it. It had to do with her sexual desire. She found, to her great annoyance, that she wanted to make love most at the very time of the month when it was forbidden!
Women like Karen who use the natural family planning *  method of birth control (NFP) *  often complain that they feel most like having sex at the time of the month when they are at greatest risk of becoming pregnant. In the past, sex researchers might have explained this increased desire as just another example of absence or abstinence making the heart grow fonder. Today, however, scientists recognize that an increase in sexual desire during the fertile period of a woman's menstrual cycle is biological rather than psychological. It is yet another example of a biological rhythm.
We have other sexual rhythms as well, rhythms that influence not only how we feel about sex, but also how we feel about all aspects of our lives. This chapter will take a look at these rhythms and show their impact on our work, play, lovemaking, and even on our susceptibility to illness.
Surprisingly, less research has been done in the area of sexual rhythms than in other areas of chronobiology, but scientists are beginning to uncover some fascinating clues to the rhythmic mysteries of sex. BOX:
Your Sexual Cycles: A Quiz
  • Do you feel sexier in the morning than at night?
  • Do you feel sexier in autumn than in spring?
  • For women only: Do you feel sexiest at the midpoint of your menstrual cycle?
  • For men only: Do you notice that your beard grows more rapidly around the same time each month?
If you answered yes to these questions, you may already be in tune with some of your natural sexual cycles.
I'M IN LOVE.
IT MUST BE -- FALL?
If we are to believe poets and songwriters, spring is the time for love and sex. Nature tells us something different, however. Our sexiest season is fall, not spring. Testosterone levels in both men and women reach their yearly peak in late summer and fall. Testosterone is one of the androgens, or so-called male hormones, that have a direct effect on sexual behavior. They are present in women as well as in men, although in smaller quantities.
It's no surprise, then, that most babies are born in summer and early fall about nine months after the autumn peak in testosterone. Nature may have intended it this way to ensure that the weather and food supply would be amenable to delivering and nourishing a newborn baby.
Social customs can throw these natural seasonal birth rhythms askew, however. In predominantly Catholic countries, for example, where couples are encouraged to abstain from sex during Lent, births tend to peak in early winter about nine months after the Easter season.
So, be on the alert in fall. It appears to be a particularly easy time of the year to get swept into a passionate romance – a romance you may later, under the influence of winter's "cooler" rhythms, regret.
A Time to Be Born If you are pregnant, plan for a middle-of-the-night trip to the hospital. As any midwife, obstetrician or chronobiologist will tell you: More babies are born at night than during the day. Around 20 percent more, to be precise. Why? It may be that nature wants us to have our babies under the cover of darkness to protect us from animal predators.
The most common birthing hour is between 3:00 A.M. and 4:00 A.M., and the least common one is exactly twelve hours later, between 3:00 P.M. and 4:00 P.M. Late afternoon is the peak time, however, for stillbirths. Scientists are not sure why.
You're also most likely to feel those first labor pains at night. Don't rue your luck, however, if your labor begins around midnight, for nighttime labor tends to be shorter than daytime labor!
YOUR DAILY AND WEEKLY LIBIDO Besides their seasonal peaks and valleys, androgens fluctuate with some regularity every twenty-four hours. Generally, androgen levels are highest between 8:00 A.M. and 12:00 noon, and lowest between 6:00 P.M. and midnight.
Does that mean that we practice more sex in the morning? Not really. Studies have shown that our most active time for sexual activity is not morning, but the more convenient evening hours specifically, 10:00 P.M. That may be a good time to fit in lovemaking, but it's a poor one as far as our androgens are concerned.
The time slot second in popularity is 7:00 A.M. But, again, this probably reflects convenience (many couples are still in bed together at that hour) rather than the result of surging hormones.
Social habits seem to play an even stronger role in weekly sexual rhythms. People who work a regular Monday-through-Friday week have sex most frequently on Saturday and Sunday (with Sunday morning being particularly popular). People whose work week differs from this norm tend to increase their sexual behavior on other days-generally the days they are not working. From this, it seems likely that social customs rather than biology determine these weekly rhythms.
THE MENSTRUAL CYCLE
The most obvious and most studied of the reproductive rhythms is the menstrual cycle. It is also second only to the sleep cycle (perhaps) in its influence on women and, indirectly, on the men who live with women.
The menstrual cycle has been enveloped in myth and mystery for centuries. Menstruating women have been blamed for everything from making crops wither in the field to souring wines. Ironically, menstrual blood has been attributed with a variety of beneficial properties: Primitive societies have used it to protect men against battle wounds, to put out fires, and to treat headaches, epilepsy, and other illnesses.
Today, most of the myths about the menstrual cycle have been discarded, but much of the mystery remains. The menstrual cycle is one of the most intricate cycles of the human body and, for many women, one of the most important in terms of their everyday physical and mental health.
For example, where a woman is in her monthly menstrual cycle may affect whether:
  • she feels optimistic or pessimistic about life
  • she desires sex or could just as well do without it
  • she wins or loses in a sports event
  • she fights off or succumbs to a viral infection
Despite the profound effect of the menstrual cycle on women's lives, few women understand their cycles enough to recognize how to benefit from the high points of their cycles and minimize any discomfort or distress that occurs during the low points. This understanding is possible, however. All it takes is some general knowledge about the inner rhythms of the menstrual cycle and the compilation of specific data about your individual cycle.
ONCE A MONTH — OR THEREABOUTS
The activity of the monthly menstrual cycle is centered around the tiny sacs of eggs, known as follicles, that are found in the ovaries. A woman has hundreds of thousands of these follicles, but each month only one grows and develops to the point where it releases its egg. Occasionally although rarely more than one follicle is released and fertilized, and twins, triplets, quadruplets, or even quintuplets may be born as a result.
Some women can actually feel the egg being released deep within the womb. It is a sensation known as mittelschmerz German for "middle pain," because it occurs at the midpoint of the cycle and is characterized by a temporary aching or cramping in the abdomen.
After the egg breaks from the ovary (ovulation), it is drawn into a nearby fallopian tube and then makes the three-day journey to the uterus, a distance of about four inches. During this trip, the egg may be fertilized if sperm reach the egg and one sperm penetrates it. In fact, the lining of the uterus (endometrium) begins to thicken immediately after ovulation in preparation for receiving and nourishing the fertilized egg. Usually, however, the egg is not fertilized by the time it reaches the uterus. It either disintegrates or is passed out of the body. When a fertilized egg is not received, the built-up lining of the uterus sheds and is expelled a process known as menstruation.
This cycle is repeated about once a month, from puberty to menopause about 400 times in an average woman's lifetime. The average length of the cycle is 29.5 days, but that is only an average. It is quite normal for women to have a cycle ranging anywhere from 15 to 45 days. And, for some women, normal means a cycle length that changes every month. In addition, most women's cycles get shorter as they age, from an average cycle length of 35 days during the teen years to 28 days by the midthirties. Length of menstruation also varies among women, from 2 to 8 days.
A variety of factors can shorten your cycle from month to month, including crash diets, stress, and excessive exercise. (See list on page 108.) But it is the first part of the cycle or the time before the egg is released from the ovary that usually is compressed. The time between the release of the egg and the beginning of the menstrual flow is almost always fourteen days. The exception is when the length of the cycle is disrupted by excessive exercise; then, the second half of the cycle appears to shorten.
Why fourteen days? Scientists have no answer, but chronobiologists believe it is somehow tied in with those seven-day rhythms that are so much a part of our biological makeup and whose source remains a mystery to us.
What Can Delay or Shorten Your Menstrual Cycle? Your menstrual cycle can lengthen or shorten or even stop-for a variety of reasons. The most common ones are listed here. Always contact your physician if you notice a pronounced change in your cycle; it may be a sign of a serious health problem.
  • Crash dieting
  • Prolonged use of oral contraceptives
  • Excessive exercise
  • Emotional stress
  • Climate and time zone changes
  • Tranquilizers containing chlorpromazine or meprobamate, such as Equanil, Miltown, or Thorazine
  • Heavy marijuana use
  • Chronic iron deficiency
  • A major operation
  • Thyroid dysfunction
  • Pituitary tumors (small, benign tumors on the pituitary gland in the brain)
  • Endometriosis
A TALE OF FOUR HORMONES
Behind the scenes, directing the monthly menstrual cycle and, to a great extent, how you feel and look are four sex hormones. Two are produced in the pituitary gland beneath the brain; two in the ovary itself.
Follicle-stimulating hormone (FSH). As its name suggests, this hormone, whose source is the pituitary gland, stimulates ovarian follicles to grow.
Estrogen. This hormone is produced by specialized cells within the developing follicles. Once released into the bloodstream, estrogen builds up the lining of the uterus in anticipation of a fertilized egg. It also thins the mucus in the cervix (the narrow outer end of the uterus) to make it easier for sperm to reach and fertilize the egg.
Luteinizing hormone (LH). Produced in the pituitary gland, this hormone triggers the egg to break from the follicle. It also causes the broken follicle to grow new cells that produce another hormone, progesterone.
Progesterone. This hormone causes the lining of the uterus to secrete protein-rich substances to help nourish the egg, if it is fertilized. It also helps thicken the cervical mucus after the egg has passed through the fallopian tube to make it more difficult for sperm to enter the uterus.
The rise and fall of estrogen and progesterone seem to be responsible for the shifting physical and psychological sensations experienced monthly by many women. When estrogen is in command (generally during the first half of the menstrual cycle), women tend to feel better both physically and emotionally more self-assured and less irritable. When progesterone is on the rise (generally during the second half of the menstrual cycle), women tend to have more negative feelings, such as low self-esteem, impatience, and lethargy. They also experience more physical ailments, such as headaches, swollen ankles, and muscle fatigue.
These shifts are tendencies that are not experienced by every woman every month. The intensity of the changes also varies from woman to woman and from month to month for each woman.
The Four Phases of Menstruation The menstrual cycle, like the moon, has four phases. Here we describe briefly some of the major events of each phase during an average 29.5-day cycle, which, by the way, is also the length of the lunar cycle! Phase 1: Menstruation (Days 1 5)
  • Estrogen and progesterone reach their monthly lows, causing the lining of the uterus (endometrium) to shed.
  • Bleeding begins and may last from two to eight days.
  • Selected egg follicles deep within the ovaries double in size.
  • Toward the end of this phase, estrogen levels begin to rise. * Mood: Tension of the premenstrual phase (see Phase 4) may go away, but feelings of depression may linger until estrogen levels begin to rise.
Phase 2: Preovulatory (Days 6 14)
  • Estrogen continues to rise, reaching peak on day twelve or thirteen.
  • Developing follicles move toward the surface of the ovary.
  • The endometrium begins to thicken.
  • Glands in the cervix create more mucus; during this phase, the mucus becomes thinner and more elastic to make it easier for sperm to enter the uterus. * Mood: Feelings of self-confidence predominate.
Phase 3: Ovulation (Day 14)
  • Estrogen levels drop precipitously.
  • Immediately after the drop in estrogen, one of the follicles ruptures and releases its egg.
  • A sharp, cramplike pain called mittelschmerz (middle pain) may be felt as the egg is released; sometimes bleeding occurs.
  • The cervix moves to a position high in the vaginal cavity; the opening to the cervix widens. * Mood: Positive feelings peak.
    *The moods described represent general tendencies; they are not experienced by all women.
Phase 4: Premenstrual (Days 15 29)
  • Within twenty-four to forty-eight hours after ovulation, body temperature rises about one-half to one degree and stays there for several days.
  • Cervical mucus becomes thicker and pastier.
  • The empty follicle (called a corpus luteum) stops secreting estrogen and begins to secrete progesterone, which reaches its highest levels around day twenty-two.
  • The progesterone causes the cells of the uterine lining to secrete protein-rich substances to nourish the released egg.
  • Breasts may swell and become tender.
  • Endometrium becomes thicker. * Mood: Feelings of anxiety, irritability, helplessness, and depression build.
HOW TO COPE WITH PREMENSTRUAL SYNDROME
Rebecca could always tell when her period was coming. Her breasts would hurt during the first few minutes of her daily run something that never happened at other times of the month. Her complexion would lose its middle-of-the-month healthy glow and appear duller and more mottled; often a pimple or two would erupt on her forehead or chin. Her mood would also change. She would become anxious about her work and short-tempered with her children and husband. She would also get down on herself during this time of the month, complaining to herself and to her husband that she was physically unattractive and a failure at her job although, in truth, she was very attractive and had a successful career.
Still, Rebecca came to dread the five or six days that preceded her period. Each month, when those days arrived, all she wanted to do was withdraw from the world and sleep and eat (her two favorite premenstrual activities). Fortunately, a friend recommended a self-awareness course on the menstrual cycle, offered through a local hospital. Rebecca signed up and learned that, by making a few changes in her lifestyle, she could greatly ease her premenstrual blues.
Although the changes experienced by women during their menstrual cycles can be positive as well as negative (see Cycles Change list on page 120), most attention seems to have been focused on the more undesirable psychological and physical symptoms associated with the final, premenstrual phase of the cycle. Known collectively as premenstrual syndrome, or PMS, these symptoms include such things as headaches, fatigue, depression, anxiety, and irritability. In the past, PMS has been cited as evidence that women are incapable of holding important jobs or public office. It should be pointed out, however, that only about 5 to 10 percent of menstruating women suffer symptoms severe enough to cause them to miss work or be unable to perform their regular work assignments. The vast majority of women cope competently with premenstrual complaints. Some women actually welcome the feel- ings of enhanced creativity that often precede their periods and have learned how to channel those feelings into highly creative and productive work.
Many women, however, would like to change how they feel before their periods even if it's a relatively mild change, such as feeling less bloated or tired. If you are one of these women, there are several actions you can take to minimize or eliminate the discomfort of PMS.
Watch what you eat during the two weeks prior to your period. Studies suggest that changes in your hormones make it more difficult for your body to process carbohydrates right before your period. So, try to avoid sugary junk foods, since your body is more likely at this time of the month to overreact to the sugar and clear too much of it from the blood. The result: low blood sugar and physical symptoms such as headaches, dizziness, and shakiness.
Cutting down on junk food isn't always easy, since a craving for sweets is, for many women, one of the most persistent premenstrual symptoms. Try stocking up on fresh fruit and getting rid of any candy bars or cookies you may have around when you know your period is on its way. Then, when the craving hits, you won't be so easily tempted. Eating smaller, but more frequent, meals during the premenstrual phase can also help lessen sugar cravings by keeping your blood sugar level steadier. For a lean and healthy body, however, be sure that those meals are low in fat.
Cut back on salt. It increases the body's ability to retain fluid. During the premenstrual phase, the body has more difficulty eliminating fluid. Scientists are not sure why this happens, but some believe it is related to the drop in progesterone that occurs immediately before menstruation begins. Not only does excess fluid cause premenstrual swelling symptoms, such as weight gain, breast tenderness, and abdominal bloating, but the fluid also gathers in brain tissue, resulting in mood swings.
Cutting back on salt means more than just tossing away the salt shaker. Most of the salt we eat is hidden in processed foods, including cheese, sandwich meats, canned vegetables, soups, and breakfast cereals. The food we buy at fast food restaurants is also heavily salted. Read food labels carefully; look at the amount of sodium listed.
Increase the amount of water you drink. Water is an excellent diuretic and will help rid your body of excess fluid.
Take selected vitamins. Some women find daily dosages of calcium (500 mg), magnesium (250 mg), and vitamin B6 (less than 250 mg) helpful in reducing the emotional symptoms of PMS, such as depression, irritability, and anxiety. A caveat: Always take B6 as part of a B-complex vitamin, because too much of one B vitamin can cause a depletion in the body of the others.
Avoid alcohol. During the premenstrual phase, many women have a lower tolerance of alcohol. One glass of wine may have the same effect as three glasses at another time of the month. Also, because alcohol is a depressant, it may intensify the negative thoughts or feelings that are so often a part of PMS.
Scientists are not sure why women have a lower tolerance of alcohol before their periods, but they believe it may be tied to the monthly rhythms of estrogen.
Avoid caffeine. Like alcohol, caffeine can aggravate many of the emotional symptoms of PMS. Be aware that caffeine is found in chocolate, soft drinks, and many over-the-counter medications, as well as in tea and coffee. (For a list of over-the-counter medications containing caffeine, see page 184.)
Do not take tranquilizers. They can intensify the depression and other psychological symptoms that are part of PMS.
In general, take care of yourself Listen to your body. If you need more sleep, get it. If you feel less inclined to be with people, excuse yourself from social commitments and arrange for time alone. Rest, relax, and be good to yourself! And remember: This, too, shall pass.
IF SELF-HELP MEASURES DON'T HELP
Sometimes, self-help measures don't work for women who suffer from more disruptive forms of PMS. If this is true for you, you should discuss medical treatments for PMS with your physician. These treatments include progesterone injections, birth control pills, and antidepressant medications. All have side effects, so you should attempt such treatment only under the supervision of your physician.
Before you begin treatment, however, you should be aware that no treatment has been found to be the definitive cure for PMS. Progesterone treatments are particularly controversial; recent research has cast doubt on their effectiveness. Indeed, in a 1979 British study of the effectiveness of progesterone on PMS -- one of the few studies that was double-blind, or conducted so that neither the researchers nor the subjects knew which treatment was which a placebo was shown to be just as effective as progesterone in relieving premenstrual symptoms.
When Your Period Is Most Likely to Start Your menstrual period is most likely to begin in the morning, between 4:00 A.M. and noon. It is least likely to start in the evening. This may have to do with the daily rise and fall of hormones, or it may simply be that you tend to notice any period that starts during the night only after you get up in the morning.
CHARTING YOUR MONTHLY CYCLE
Each woman has a unique rhythm to her menstrual cycle. By charting your cycle for three or four months, you will begin to recognize the highs and lows of your monthly rhythm--the days when you feel like going out and conquering the world and the days when you prefer to curl up in front of the fire with only a good book for company.
Charting is a simple process and requires only a small amount of time. Here's how to go about it:
Use either a monthly calendar with large daily squares or make a calendar using large pieces of paper.
Select ten physical or psychological changes that you wish to keep track of from the list on page 120 and write them on the calendar page. Give each one a letter symbol: I for irritability; BT for breast tenderness, etc. Try to include at least two positive changes.
Each day, record any noticeable changes on your chart. If you miss a day, leave the square blank; don't go back and try to fill in blank spaces. If you don't notice any changes on a particular day, simply write "no change."
If a symptom is very strong on a particular day, circle the letter symbol on the calendar.
Use a star to indicate the first day of your period and, if you wish, another star to indicate when the period stops. During your period, you may also wish to indicate the pattern of your bleeding: heavy, moderate, or light.
You may also keep track of your weight during the month by writing it down in each daily block. Be sure to weigh yourself at the same time each day.
Keep charting for at least three months. The longer you chart, the clearer will be the pattern that emerges. Many women find that knowing a pattern exists is enough to help them live more comfortably with their monthly ups and downs. They realize that their symptoms are not "in their heads" at all, but a natural part of their monthly cycle.
What One Woman Learned from Her Chart About halfway through her twenties, Joan began to suffer fairly strong PMS symptoms tension, fatigue, sleepiness, anxiety, and, most worrisome to her, deep depression. She recognized almost at once that the symptoms were related to her monthly cycle and decided to look for ways she could change her lifestyle to make the week before her period more bearable.
So she began to chart her cycle. She also began experimenting with changes in her diet to see if food could ease the symptoms. Nothing seemed to work. Then, after almost a year and a half of charting, she noticed a pattern: The symptoms were worse during the winter months.
Joan lived in a northern city where sunlight was scarce in the winter. Maybe, she told herself, the lack of light was contributing to her PMS. As an experiment, she started going to a tanning booth for just fifteen minutes a week. Within two months, her symptoms had all but disappeared! She also noticed that her periods were more regular.
Joan's self-treatment might not work for everyone. Indeed, many health care specialists warn about the serious health consequences of overexposure to ultraviolet rays. Also, Joan's PMS symptoms seemed to be compounded by seasonal depression (see chapter 4) a problem most other PMS sufferers do not share. But her efforts at tracking her cycle illustrate how charting and finding patterns in your cycle can help you take action against the PMS blues.
MEN HAVE CYCLES, TOO
Although little research has been done on the topic, men have monthly cycles, too. As far back as the seventeenth century, the Italian scientist Sanctorius weighed men daily over long periods of time and discovered that men underwent a monthly weight change of about one or two pounds. More recently, a Danish endocrinologist kept daily records of hormones excreted in his urine. When analyzed, those records showed that his hormones rose and fell in roughly a thirty-day rhythm. Interestingly, beard growth also shows a rhythm of approximately thirty days; in other words, the amount of beard a man grows daily increases and decreases in a monthly cycle.
In 1929, a researcher carefully followed the moods of seventeen men and showed that men, like women, have emotional cycles of about a month to six weeks in length. According to the researcher's findings, men tend to be more apathetic and indifferent during the low period of their emotional cycles and more likely to magnify small problems into big ones. During the high period of their cycles, men have more energy, a greater sense of well-being, lower body weight, and less need for sleep.
In the early 1970s, Ms. magazine reported that a Japanese bus and taxi company used this knowledge of male monthly cycles to reduce accidents involving its vehicles. After charting the cycles of each of its drivers, the company rearranged routes and schedules to best match the men's low and high periods. The result: After two years, the company experienced a one-third drop in its accident rate.
Men, like women, may benefit from following the Japanese company's example and charting their individual monthly rhythms. Use the chart and Cycle Changes list on page 120. If you are married or living with a woman, both of you may find it interesting and helpful to chart your cycles together to see if they are in or out of sync with each other.
Cycle Changes Here is a sampling of the physical and psychological sensations that may vary in intensity at different phases of your monthly menstrual cycle. When charting your cycle, you may wish to expand this list to include additional physical or emotional changes:
PSYCHOLOGICAL
Beneficial
Creativity
Optimism
Self-confidence
Exuberance
Feeling attractive
Feeling sexual
Contentment
Enjoying being with people
Excess energy
Disruptive
Irritability
Anger
Tension
Anxiety/Feelings of doom
Depression
Insomnia
Nightmares
Feeling unattractive
Crying spells
Feeling unsocial
PHYSICAL
Migraine headaches
Mouth sores
Weight gain
Weight loss
Swollen ankles or hands
Bloating and edema
Breast tenderness
Increased athletic performance
Decreased athletic performance
Heart palpitations
Backache
Fatigue
Acne
Fainting
Loss of appetite
Increased appetite
Reluctance to exercise
Cravings (for alcohol, salt, or sugar)
Sleepiness
More accident prone
SHORTER MALE CYCLES
In addition to its monthly rhythm, beard growth has a second – and weaker weekly rhythm in men. Beards tend to grow the most on Sunday and the least on Wednesday although the difference is not great enough for most men to notice. Because beard growth seems to be triggered by testosterone levels (which rise during sexual activity), this weekly increase and decrease in beard growth may be the result of increased sexual activity on the weekend.
One of the most perplexing and shorter male cycles involves the rise and fall in sperm count. A man's total sperm count peaks every two to five days; for most men, the peak comes every three or four days (which is also, by the way, the same rhythm exhibited by male rabbits). What causes the sperm count to rise and fall in such a rhythm or how it affects sexuality is still being explored.
HOW YOUR MENSTRUAL CYCLE AFFECTS YOUR PHYSICAL HEALTH
Your susceptibility to illness changes throughout your monthly cycle. For example, a woman in the middle third of her cycle is dramatically more susceptible to colds. In one study, 77 percent of women exposed to cold viruses during the middle of their cycles developed colds, compared to 29 percent of other women. Estrogen may be the cause. It thins the cervical mucus in the middle of the cycle to encourage sperm to reach the ovulating egg. In the process, it may also be thinning the mucus produced by the membranes of the nose, and thus be giving cold germs easier access to the body. Cold germs usually invade the body through either the nose or eyes.
When the cold and flu seasons hit, therefore, you should probably take extra preventive precautions during the middle of your menstrual cycle, when you are most susceptible. Try to avoid touching your face with your hands. Wash your hands frequently, especially if you've just been in the same room with someone who has a cold. Also, avoid using the cold sufferer's towels, washcloths, and face soaps.
Despite the increased susceptibility to colds at the time of ovulation, a woman's immunity to other ailments is usually strong- est during this phase of the cycle and at its weakest right before and during menstruation. So, the second half of a woman's cycle is when other ailments are most likely to strike.
Asthma attacks, for example, are more severe immediately before and during the menstrual period. Scientists believe the severity of the attacks may be the result of the fluid that builds up in the body at that time, which causes the lining of the airways to swell, making it more difficult to breathe. Doctors recommend that you reduce your salt intake before your periods to keep fluid buildup to a minimum. You may also want to consult your physician about increasing your medication at this time of each month.
Herpes sores are also more likely to appear around menstruation. In fact, the timing of the sores during menstruation is so common that one clinical form of the disease is called herpes menstrualis.
Getting ill isn't the worst thing that is more likely to happen to you during the second half of your cycle. You have a greater chance of dying then, too! In one study, researchers looked at the post-mortem coroners' reports of 102 women, age eighteen to forty-six, who had died of various causes. Much to the researchers' amazement, they discovered that only 13 of the women had died during the first half of their cycles; the other 89 died between ovulation and menstruation.
A closer look at the coroners' reports showed an even more startling fact: 60 of the 89 women who had died during the second half of their cycles did so during days seventeen to twenty-three.
Granted, the study cannot be considered representative of all deaths, because coroners usually deal with suicide and accident victims- and several studies indicate that suicides and accidents are more prevalent during the premenstrual phase, when women tend to be more depressed. Indeed, 50 percent of the deaths in this study were due to those causes; the figure for the general population is closer to 5 percent.
Still, the fact remains that nearly all the deaths not just suicides and accidents--occurred during the last half of the menstrual cycle. This is a startling finding, and one that needs to be explored further. It may be that one day women will be advised to schedule elective surgery during the first half of their monthly cycles.
When an Illness Is Most Likely to Strike The following medical illnesses and conditions are most likely to occur during a particular phase of the monthly menstrual cycle:
Ovulation
Colds and flu
Premenstruation
Nose bleeds
Hoarseness
Headaches
Acne
Eczema
Tetany (muscle spasms)
Asthma attacks
Pneumonia
Epileptic attacks
Inflammation of the pancreas
Hepatitis
Scarlet fever
Typhoid fever

Menstruation
Hives
Herpes
Pharyngitis
Edema
Asthma attacks
Peptic ulcer attacks
Tonsillitis
Diabetic coma
HOW YOUR MENSTRUAL CYCLE
AFFECTS YOUR
INTELLECTUAL ABILITIES
No one knows just how--or if a woman's intellectual abilities are affected by her monthly menstrual cycle. Some studies have shown that a woman's reaction time is slowest just prior to menstruation; other studies have refuted this finding. A few studies have also shown that women score lowest on intelligence tests during menstruation; but those results may reflect the physical discomfort of menstruation (known as dysmenorrhea) rather than a true change in intellectual abilities.
Most studies seem to indicate that a woman's intellectual skills are not significantly affected by the hormonal fluctuations of her menstrual cycle.
Still, it may be wise to try, if possible, to schedule any major job- or school-related tests on nonmenstruating days. You should do this for two reasons. First: Menstrual aches and pains may keep you from performing your best. Second: Studies have shown that some women perceive themselves as doing poorly on tests during this time of the month and such perceptions can become self-fulfilling prophecies.
Of course, most tests can't be scheduled at your convenience. If you must take a test or perform some other intellectual feat during menstruation, don't panic. Rather, take these simple steps to ease the discomfort of menstruation:
Get some exercise in the days preceding the test. Exercise will help rid the body of excess water, ease the flow of blood, and relieve the constipation that often accompanies menstruation.
Get enough rest. Often, women who are menstruating need extra sleep.
Take aspirin for painful cramps (assuming you are not allergic to aspirin). If the cramps are particularly severe, ask your doctor about several anticramp prescription drugs now on the market. You should also have the doctor examine you to make sure the cramps are not the result of a more serious underlying condition, such as endometriosis (an abnormal growth of uterine tissue) or pelvic inflammatory disease (PID).
HOW YOUR MENSTRUAL CYCLE AFFECTS YOUR ATHLETIC ABILITIES
If you were to enter an athletic event during your menstrual period, do you think your performance in the event would be better or worse than it would be at some other time of the month?
Was your answer "worse"? Well, think again. Although you, like many other women, may believe you perform more poorly at sports or athletics during your period, you may actually perform better.
Here's what some of the studies show:
When female competitors at the 1930 World Track and Field Championships were asked how their menstrual cycle affected their performance, 29 percent said their performance improved while they were menstruating.
Twenty-two years later, at the 1952 Helsinki Olympics, another group of top female athletes was asked the same question. Again, 20 percent reported an improved performance during menstruation.
More recently, researchers tested a group of competitive teen-age swimmers through several menstrual cycles. All recorded their fastest practice times during menstruation.
Some studies do indicate a deterioration of strength, hand steadiness, and balance around the menstrual period particularly on the first day of flow. But just how much of an effect this has on overall sports performance is not clear.
The best way to keep your athletic performance steady throughout the month is to keep in shape. Women who exercise regularly complain less about their periods than those who do not. But, it's not for the reasons you think. Although exercise can shorten your periods and decrease the flow of blood, it does not appear to lessen the discomfort of dysmenorrhea – or, for that matter, of PMS. A recent survey of 420 women by researchers at the Melpomene Institute for Women's Health Research revealed that exercise has no effect on menstrual cramps, mood swings, or monthly changes in appetite.
Why, then, do women who are physically active complain less about their periods? No one knows for sure, but it may be simply that they are more used to discomfort and thus better able to tolerate it. It also may be that, because these women tend to be in excellent health, their bodies are better able to handle the strain – and occasional pain of menstruation.
How Exercise Can Affect Your Monthly Cycle Many female athletes report that their menstrual periods stop or become infrequent when their training gets into high gear. The reason? Intense exercise over a long period of time appears to alter the balance of hormones within the body in such a way that ovulation seldom or never occurs. And, of course, without ovulation, menstruation does not occur.
Some female athletes are more likely to have their periods stop than others. Here's a look at the high-risk groups:
  • Very lean women specifically those with less than 20 percent body fat
  • Women who weigh less than 115 pounds
  • Women who lose more than 15 percent of their total body weight after beginning an exercise program
  • Women who regularly consume fewer than 1,500 calories per day
  • Women who are vegetarians probably because they consume much less fat in their diets than nonvegetarians
It's not known what effect the absence of menstruation (known as amenorrhea) has on a female athlete's long-range health. In the short term, of course, it causes infertility.
Amenorrhea is reversible, often by simply gaining a few pounds or lowering the number of miles you run, swim, or cycle each week. Always consult first with your doctor to make sure the change in your cycle does not have a more serious cause. Also, be sure to apprize your doctor that you are physically active; otherwise, he or she may overlook this as a cause of amenorrhea, and you may find yourself receiving unnecessary hormone treatments.
HOW YOUR MENSTRUAL CYCLE AFFECTS YOUR WEIGHT
As many women know, stepping on the bathroom scale during the days preceding menstruation can be a depressing experience. Most women will register a weight gain of three to five pounds during the premenstrual phase of their cycle. It's important to remember, however, that this weight gain is only temporary, caused by the excess fluid retention so common during that time of the cycle. The extra weight is usually quickly shed once menstruation begins.
Of course, you can gain permanent weight during the premenstrual phase if you give in to cravings you may have for sugary or fatty foods. And many women do give in to those cravings, consuming an average of 500 extra calories each day during the ten days before their periods! Fortunately, your basal metabolic rate (the minimum amount of energy you need to keep your body working) is at its highest right before menstruation, and a higher metabolic rate means that you burn calories more easily. That, however, does not mean that you can wolf down a pint of chocolate ice cream and not expect itto find its way to your thighs. We're talking about burning only a very few extra calories!
If you are thinking about going on a diet, the best time to do it is right after your period. Many women find that their desire for sweets is noticeably reduced during the preovulatory phase of their menstrual cycle. Obviously, the worst time to start a diet is right before your period, when your craving for food will be strongest. In fact, you are five times more likely to quit your diet at this time of your cycle.
HOW YOUR MENSTRUAL CYCLE AFFECTS YOUR SKIN
Premenstrual flare-ups of acne occur in half of women who are already prone to breaking out. Experts believe these flare-ups are linked to the premenstrual rise of progesterone, which activates the oil-producing glands of the skin and causes blackheads and pimples to form. On the other hand, estrogen, which dominates the first half of the menstrual cycle, inhibits oil production. Your skin will generally look its clearest, therefore, just prior to ovulation. This may also account for the clear-skinned glow of pregnant women, for they have higher levels of estrogen in their system than nonpregnant women. Many women taking high-estrogen oral contraceptives also report that their skin clears up once they are on the Pill.
You can minimize premenstrual acne by taking special care of your skin during the two weeks prior to your period. Wash your face with soap at least three times a day. Pat it dry gently with a soft towel; don't rub or scrub. Remove excess oil with cotton swabs dabbed in alcohol or apply a lotion containing benzoyl peroxide, an antibacterial agent that dries and protects the skin against excess oiliness. Use a water-based or oil-free makeup foundation instead of an oil-based one that can clog pores.
During the first .two days of your period, you should also take extra precautions to protect your skin from the sun, since at this time of your cycle, your skin is especially sensitive to the sun's ultraviolet rays and can burn more easily. Either stay out of direct sunlight (especially if you have fair skin) or use a sunscreen lotion or cream, preferably one that contains the chemical PABA or benzophenone, or both.
A Special Note to Women on the Pill Women who take birth control pills have less pronounced monthly ups and downs than women who use other methods of birth control. This is because birth control pills prevent ovulation, usually by providing a steady dose of estrogen that is too high to allow an egg to mature. If you are on the Pill, you can probably expect shorter and lighter periods, fewer problems with acne, and less severe shifts in mood.
Of course, you may experience other discomforting symptoms, such as breast tenderness and weight gain (all month, not just before menstruation), skin rashes, and an increase in vaginal discharge. Birth control pills have also been linked to high blood pressure, depression, skin cancer, and other illnesses. These complications are rare, however.
Still, the Pill is a good example of how changing a natural rhythm can create serious health consequences and why we need to treat our rhythms with respect.
HOW YOUR MENSTRUAL CYCLE AFFECTS YOUR SEXUAL DESIRES
Women usually feel their sexiest at midcycle, or right around ovulation. This makes sense from a biological perspective: Having women most receptive to sex at the time they are most likely to become pregnant helps ensure continuation of the species.
Scientists are not sure what causes this increased sexual libido at midcycle, but they believe it may be related to a monthly peaking of androgens.
According to one study, women increase their sexual desire and activity by 25 percent during a three-day period around ovulation. This is not true, however, of women who are taking birth control pills and who, therefore, are not ovulating. In fact, during the time they would normally ovulate, they actually experience a decreased desire for sex, although researchers are not sure why.
Not only is a woman more likely to want sex at ovulation, but she is also likely to enjoy it more as well. One study revealed that women are two to six times more likely to have an orgasm at midcycle. Contributing to this heightened enjoyment of sex is the fact that a woman's senses taste, touch, smell, and hearing are more acute and sensitive at ovulation. Interestingly, a woman's skin is more sensitive to touch at this time of the month (although less sensitive to pain), further encouraging the woman's receptivity to sex.
A woman's sense of smell is particularly strong at ovulation. In fact, only women who are ovulating are able to smell certain artificial musklike odors odors that may mimic the natural odors, or pheromones, emitted by men. This ability to smell these odors only during ovulation may play a role in triggering a woman's increased sex drive.
Some sex researchers have reported that women have a second stretch of days during their monthly cycle when they tend to be more sexually active right before menstruation. This peak may be caused by the sudden drop in progesterone that immediately precedes menstruation. It is believed that high levels of progesterone suppress female libido; when the levels fall, therefore, desire rises.
HOW BEING AROUND WOMEN AFFECTS YOUR CYCLE
As sisters and roommates have often discovered, living with another woman or group of women can eventually result in everyone menstruating at around the same time of the month. This has been called the "dormitory effect," because the first formal study of the phenomenon was conducted among a group of college students living in a dormitory. Generally, it seems to take about three or four months for menstrual cycles to become synchronized. For example, the cycles of seven female lifeguards involved in one study were far apart when the women began working together at the start of the summer, but fell within four days of each other three months later.
Scientists are not sure what causes menstrual synchrony, but they believe it may be a female pheromone that in some unknown way triggers changes in the menstrual cycles of other women. At least one study backs up this theory. In the study, perspiration was taken from one donor woman and rubbed on the upper lips of five other women. Six control women had their lips rubbed with plain alcohol. The menstrual cycles of all the women were then followed. The cycles of those who received the perspiration shifted toward the donor's menstrual cycle. The control group showed no such shift.
HOW BEING AROUND MEN AFFECTS YOUR CYCLE
Some research suggests that if you are regularly having sex with a man (at least once a week), your menstrual cycle will tend to be shorter and more regular than it would be if you were celibate.
Again, pheromones this time, male ones may be the cause, since research has revealed that women who work in the manufacturing of natural and synthetic musks substances related to testosterone, the most dominant sex hormone in males also have shorter and more regular cycles than other women.
Tips for Living with Your Sexual Rhythms Sexual rhythms can be subtle. Here is a summary of tips for ensuring that these rhythms enhance rather than interfere with your life.
  • Chart your monthly cycles. Be aware of your peaks and valleys in terms of physical and emotional well-being, and try to schedule your activities accordingly.
  • As noted, you may feel sexier in the morning. Take advantage of this possible increase in sexual libido by scheduling more lovemaking with your partner before you get out of bed in the morning.
  • Be cautious if you fall in love in late summer or fall. The irresistible attraction you feel at that time of the year may not be love at all, but rather a seasonal peaking of sexual desire.
  • For women only: If you do not want to become pregnant and you are not using birth control or are using natural family planning,*  be aware that the time of the month when you most desire sex may very well be the time when you are most likely to become pregnant.
* Natural Family Planning (NFP) may not morally be used with the contraceptive mentality as this is the moral equivalent of using any other method to avoid pregnancy. While there may be grave motivations in which NFP can be used –other methods may never morally be used– NFP may never be used as a method of avoidance of pregnancy for selfish reasons. (This reference is added by this web site monitor.) Chapter Six
Keeping a Healthy Beat –
Rhythms and Medicine
Healing is a matter of time...
-- HIPPOCRATES
Precepts
Kay was a wreck. It was a week before Thanksgiving and her asthma, which had hit with a vengeance in mid-August and been getting steadily worse, was now so bad she could hardly stand it.
The same thing had happened last Thanksgiving, except then it had culminated in an early morning attack so severe that her frantic roommate had dialed 911 and screamed for help. Within minutes, a rescue squad had arrived and rushed Kay to the hospital. The doctors later told her that the attack could have killed her. So this year she had been extra careful about taking her medicine. As a result, the attacks weren't as bad, but they still were difficult.
Kay thought back to the sudden asthma attacks of her childhood, attacks that often meant a few days in a hospital bed under a dear plastic oxygen tent. She remembered the moist, easy-to-breathe air that was cooled by ice packed in a container near her head. She remembered being frightened by the distorted images of her parents as she looked at them through the soft plastic walls of the tent.
Then it struck her. She had almost always been hospitalized in the fall. Kay had long been aware that the attacks usually came late at night or early in the morning, but she'd never thought of her asthma as having a seasonal rhythm as well.

Author's Web Source: http://www.trosch.org/ide/sex-cycl.htm

Sunday, August 7, 2011

Buy one take one

This morning I went outside to buy some snacks in this store. I bought the usual food snacks like -- milk bars, Piatos and the buy-one take-one chocolate bars which is you can choose for either SAFARI bar with PIK-ONE bar or DEMOLINO choco biscuit and you can only buy it for 6 pesos. wow! too cheap for two incredible chocolate bars. But here's the thing, I started to wonder  why the store bothered to make the other chocolate bar for free? And I think those chocolates are not so super expensive nor not so very cheap when you buy it on their manufacturer. I had an idea maybe the chocolates are expired? So I looked upon the label for the expiry date and here it was, the other PIK-ONE chocolatey was 2 months old expired, really. So th at is the reason why they make it buy-one take one so the customer will feel happy, like me, that they could eat two incredible chocolate bars for a cheap prize. What a heck. I just found it out today. I was stupid for not realizing it earlier before. So that was also the reason why the PIK-ONE chocolate has a horrible taste, because it was expired! damn. And you can't choose what bar you would like to be free because they put scotch tape on those bars so you dont have a choice but to pick the one that is expired, haha very smart though. I think that is their way to empty their inventory but hell?? Arent they serious about their customer's health? Is there any violation against the law for that? I dont know either. Im not a LAW fan but Im just curious about the rights of the customers you know. TSk!




100 Benefits of Meditation

There are so many advantages to meditation. When I first originally thought of this post, I indeed wanted to make it 100 benefits long (think big right!), however, I wasn’t sure I could find more than perhaps 20-25 benefits. Well, I made it happen! Meditation is as powerful as I thought it would be. Here is the definitive list of benefits that meditation can provide you with:
Physiological benefits:
1- It lowers oxygen consumption.
2- It decreases respiratory rate.
3- It increases blood flow and slows the heart rate.
4- Increases exercise tolerance.
5- Leads to a deeper level of physical relaxation.
6- Good for people with high blood pressure.
7- Reduces anxiety attacks by lowering the levels of blood lactate.
8- Decreases muscle tension
9- Helps in chronic diseases like allergies, arthritis etc.
10- Reduces Pre-menstrual Syndrome symptoms.
11- Helps in post-operative healing.
12- Enhances the immune system.
13- Reduces activity of viruses and emotional distress
14- Enhances energy, strength and vigour.
15- Helps with weight loss
16- Reduction of free radicals, less tissue damage
17- Higher skin resistance
18- Drop in cholesterol levels, lowers risk of cardiovascular disease.
19- Improved flow of air to the lungs resulting in easier breathing.
20- Decreases the aging process.
21- Higher levels of DHEAS (Dehydroepiandrosterone)
22- prevented, slowed or controlled pain of chronic diseases
23- Makes you sweat less
24- Cure headaches & migraines
25- Greater Orderliness of Brain Functioning
26- Reduced Need for Medical Care
27- Less energy wasted
28- More inclined to sports, activities
29- Significant relief from asthma
30- improved performance in athletic events
31- Normalizes to your ideal weight
32- harmonizes our endocrine system
33- relaxes our nervous system
34- produce lasting beneficial changes in brain electrical activity
35- Cure infertility (the stresses of infertility can interfere with the release of hormones that regulate ovulation).
Psychological benefits:
36- Builds self-confidence.
37- Increases serotonin level, influences mood and behaviour.
38- Resolve phobias & fears
39- Helps control own thoughts
40- Helps with focus & concentration
41- Increase creativity
42- Increased brain wave coherence.
43- Improved learning ability and memory.
44- Increased feelings of vitality and rejuvenation.
45- Increased emotional stability.
46- improved relationships
47- Mind ages at slower rate
48- Easier to remove bad habits
49- Develops intuition
50- Increased Productivity
51- Improved relations at home & at work
52- Able to see the larger picture in a given situation
53- Helps ignore petty issues
54- Increased ability to solve complex problems
55- Purifies your character
56- Develop will power
57- greater communication between the two brain hemispheres
58- react more quickly and more effectively to a stressful event.
59- increases one’s perceptual ability and motor performance
60- higher intelligence growth rate
61- Increased job satisfaction
62- increase in the capacity for intimate contact with loved ones
63- decrease in potential mental illness
64- Better, more sociable behaviour
65- Less aggressiveness
66- Helps in quitting smoking, alcohol addiction
67- Reduces need and dependency on drugs, pills & pharmaceuticals
68- Need less sleep to recover from sleep deprivation
69- Require less time to fall asleep, helps cure insomnia
70- Increases sense of responsibility
71- Reduces road rage
72- Decrease in restless thinking
73- Decreased tendency to worry
74- Increases listening skills and empathy
75- Helps make more accurate judgements
76- Greater tolerance
77- Gives composure to act in considered & constructive ways
78- Grows a stable, more balanced personality
79- Develops emotional maturity
Spiritual benefits:
80- Helps keep things in perspective
81- Provides peace of mind, happiness
82- Helps you discover your purpose
83- Increased self-actualization.
84- Increased compassion
85- Growing wisdom
86- Deeper understanding of yourself and others
87- Brings body, mind, spirit in harmony
88- Deeper Level of spiritual relaxation
89- Increased acceptance of oneself
90- helps learn forgiveness
91- Changes attitude toward life
92- Creates a deeper relationship with your God
93- Attain enlightenment
94- greater inner-directedness
95- Helps living in the present moment
96- Creates a widening, deepening capacity for love
97- Discovery of the power and consciousness beyond the ego
98- Experience an inner sense of “Assurance or Knowingness”
99- Experience a sense of “Oneness”
100- Increases the synchronicity in your life
Meditation is also completely FREE! It requires no special equipment, and is not complicated to learn. It can be practiced anywhere, at any given moment, and it is not time consuming (15-20 min. per day is good). Best of all, meditation has NO negative side effects. Bottom line, there is nothing but positive to be gained from it! With such a huge list of benefits, the question you should ask yourself is, “why am I not meditating yet?”
If you need a point to start from, you should try guided meditation courses. They are inexpensive and can provide you with a good foundation from which to begin meditating.
Make sure you meditate, there are quite simply too many positives to just ignore it.

Sunday, July 17, 2011

Dad's Blow-out

Weekend is family day that's why we spent dinner on the city to the Village Den - the restaurant that we've been eating since I went up here in Cagayan de oro City. It's funny because the manager which is the owner of the resto is always greeting us whenever we go there to eat. She and the staffs knew already that we're always eating there on weekends. The place is good, but it's not actually the formal-type cuisine, the food is awesome and very delicious. Here are some of our pictures, kind of blurry...




I dont have the picture of the whole restaurant and the food that we ordered because the battery of my camera died but next time we go there i will take a shot and update this blog.

Monday, July 11, 2011

My Highschool Friends-Reunion


We were having lunch at Mc Donalds

 Teresa and mom Melissa with her baby girl

 Me and Melissa

 Friends from highschool until now. I miss them already

 At Jenny's house. Jenny was my classmate since 6th  grade. She was my very best friend
..
 15 years friendship and counting.



Monday, July 4, 2011

Most Expensive Chocolate

Fritz Knipschildt is the architect behind the most expensive chocolate in the world and is sometimes called the Willy Wonka of Connecticut. He founded Knipschildt Chocolatier in South Norwalk, Connecticut in 1999 and brought his Danish culinary training with him. All of his chocolates are handmade artisan products using only the freshest natural ingredients, with no additives or preservatives. He sells a chocolate called the Madeleine that must be ordered in advance. The Madeleine contains a creamy truffle ganache made from French Valrhona chocolate blended with fresh cream infused with vanilla pods and pure Italian truffle oil.
This extravagant yet simple ganache then has a French Perigold truffle rolled inside of it and the whole thing is dusted with cocoa powder. The ingredients alone don’t explain why this truffle chocolate is the world’s most expensive chocolate ever sold. Mr. Knipschildt’s explanation for the price tag is the tremendous amount of work that goes into producing these chocolates. The ganache is whipped and folded by hand for a long time to make it as silky as humanly possible, and he even has to perform the hand rolling of the Perigold truffle inside of the ganache within a refrigerated room so that the ganache hardens ever so slightly enough to be workable. Each one of these luscious truffle chocolates has a price tag of $250, making the confection cost approximately $2,600 per pound in quantity.
The Madeleine must be ordered in advance, and each chocolate comes with a personally signed card explaining how it was made and a unique serial number. Mr. Knipshildt has certainly created the world’s most expensive chocolate confection, and it’s probably worth every penny.

[Author's Note: View website source]

Face exercises for symmetry and beauty

Beauty, or attractiveness certainly is "in the eye of the beholder", as each person's perception of what is beautiful is very unique. Sarah Maria, a body-image expert, reminds us of societal influences too, describing beauty as "a socially constructed phenomenon that changes constantly." She says, "As society has evolved and changed, so has the concept of the "ideal" body. What is considered beautiful is both created and informed by changing thoughts and opinions." Personally, I see beauty in people's eyes, in their voices, in their smiles, and of course in a person's words, behaviour and overall personality. I think all this can make a person "beautiful", or "ugly" for that matter. Physical beauty, I believe, is something we can all have, by simply making the very most of the body we have been blessed with, appreciating our individuality, "loving ourselves", deciding, no matter what, that "we are beautiful", respecting the physical body, and taking good care of what is essentially, the home of the soul, spirit or "self". There's a saying which goes something along the lines of, "a healthy body is a home for the soul. An unhealthy body is a prison"! Profound, and yet so true. Let's get back to the idea of "facial beauty"?
If we look at the classic definitions of beauty, most indicate that beauty is all about symmetry of facial features, or visual balance.
I came across these facial exercises while reading a book by "Barefoot Doctor", Stephen Russell. I blogged recently about 3 books I'd just read, and his book "Pure" is one of these (see my post "For your own personal growth"). The book essentially helps us see, understand and live the "beauty" of life, or the "Tao" as he explains. His book "Pure" is, in his words, "A path to peace, power and prosperity". Now, far from focusing on physical beauty, his words on "Pure beauty" include these exercises to help optimise the symmetry and tone of your facial features. They stretch and elongate the face (and boy do you feel that when you do them!!), and help to "frame the beauty that shines in your eyes".
1) Draw your upper lip downwards and looking up simultaneously (as stretched and long as your face will go), allowing that to break in to a smile once it reaches full extension. Repeat 18 times. (I am not sure why 18?!). This feels wonderful and really works to stretch your face! I couldn't understand why (the next day) my jaw line really ached! Then I remembered what I had been doing behind closed doors!
2) Stick your tongue out and look upwards with eyes wide open and release to normal 18 times.
3) With mouth closed, revolve your chin like a camel chewing in a circular motion 18 times one way, 18 times the other.
4) Revolve the tip of your tongue around the inside of your gums 18 times one way, 18 times the other. This will work the muscles at the root of your tongue.
5) Place a palm on each cheek and rub gently in circles upwards to the temples, then draw the palms lightly down either side of your nose and over your chin, and push back up the sides of the cheeks and temples, down over the cheeks again and so on 18 times.
As the author says, "You will feel a magnificent sensation of increased blood and energy circulation throughout your face as a result. Stop, rest and allow your face to relax completely - let all trace of expression slide right off it and feel your entire skull relax."
These exercises should be repeated EVERYDAY and within 30 days your skin and facial muscles will feel more toned, more robust and and you'll notice your features becoming more symmetrical looking. TRY IT!
These words are taken from "Pure" by "Barefoot Doctor". His website is http://www.barefootdoctorglobal.com/ where you can buy his book, and listen to his daily "One-minute clinics"! Thank you Barefoot Doctor for a great book, and wonderful teachings.

[Author's Note: You can visit the original site here which is the source of the above article]

Botoy's Letchon Fan

Hello there guys Im just going to blog you a little about one of my favorite chicken bbq - Botoy's Letchon here in Cagayan de oro City. If you want to taste a delicious chicken or liempo bbq just visit the store, its worth the prize. It is not only juicy but it is cooked well inside and out. And the sauce, oh my it is really fantastic. My husband and me went to the City this evening just to buy chicken bbq for dinner. I t can't get out of my head since I had it a first bite. It was so yummy and very tasty. Try it and for sure you'll going back next time again.

Saturday, July 2, 2011

Its was weird

It was really weird, really. And I hate it so much that I don't want to happen that again. I was so scared. It was almost I didn't want to go back to sleep after that incident. I dont know what's the reason why it happened that night. Am I totally insane? Do I have a psychological problem? I don't think so. Had you experience that while you were sleeping, suddenly you knew that you are awake but you cannot move your body because it was still asleep? but you're conscious of what's happening? And then something weird is gonna happen. You suddenly hear someone is crying beside you, some child maybe but you didn't know whom it was. And then you'll hear a man, saying some words that you don't understand because he was chanting it on different language like he's from the cult and you knew that he was sitting in front of you because you  can hear it's voice and it was very close and it was a scary voice. And that was exactly what happened last night. I was groaning because I cannot move my body. I want to move because I was so afraid on the chanting voice of a man( By the way it's not my husband because he was peacefully sleeping beside me) Luckily my husband was waking me up if he hears me groaning. But it happened like 5 times in a row. He woke me up, I try to sleep then it will happen again, woke me up again, then the story goes on. Five or six times, I don't remember. It was not my first time last night, it happened few months ago. Last time it was not the man chanting that I heard, instead it was a man also but he was speaking with another entity like he was saying to that he will kill this person, they have to kill that person then he spake another words that I don't know or I don't remember. I dont know what's for sure the reason why is that happening to me. I pray before I sleep. Well hopefully it wont happen again. that night I wake up like 2am and cannot fall back to sleep. I was afraid. :(

Friday, July 1, 2011

Some of my artworks

These are the edited photos via Photoshop of my not so old pictures.

 was taken from Batangas, nothing to do..
that was me when I was like 20 something. Carlo was having long hair in his early 20s 
 this one is my favorite
 Queencie and me
 ;P
 this looks kinda real
subway in Manhattan
 shot taken from Brooklyn bridge
 my very own album ( how I wish!)
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stuffz stuffz stuffz

Thank God it's Saturday now. Its time for some relaxing and chiiling moments with my family. We had just chatted with my mom and dad few minutes ago. We miss them so much :( but it was fun talking with them. Anyway I gotta go now it looks its gonna rain in any moment. I have to put the clothes that I washed this morning before it start to rain. Ciao

Wednesday, June 29, 2011

My day to day routine

Just woke up at around 5, prepared breakfast like coffee and milk, making soup, waking up my daughter, feed her,  take a bath, bath her and dress her a uniform, prepare her lunch and snacks, take vitamins, put her socks on, brush her hair, brush my own hair which is the most difficult to do when you are super busy and you have a very long hair and doesn't put a conditioner on because you're in a hurry, ugh! take a ride in the Jeep to school, walk to school with heavy bag full of books and 7 notebooks plus my black little bag ( I can't leave the house without it) take her to fall in the line for some ceremony while waiting them to go to their room, after she have a seat and see that she's now comfortable and the class is going to start I can go home. But the journey is not yet over. I have to deal with very annoying sunlight because it is so hot that you think you're in the dessert.I have to cross in the streets to take a ride home while dealing with some unruly drivers honking even if you're in the pedestrian lane. After I took a jeep I have to walk towards the house. Clean the house mess and take a bath, relax and, as you can see, to type some blog here on blogger dot com. That's my morning routine. Then before 12 in the noon I have to cook for lunch, eat lunch, take a shower, put clothes on, bring umbrella just in case it might rain or its hot outside. (By the way I like raining than sunny day because I cannot stand on walking under the sunny hot day) When I got to school I have to peek on her just to make sure she is writing on her notes ( she is very lazy when it comes to writing on her notes, I don't know the reason maybe she's just tired or cannot understand the letters on the board because she sometimes cannot see it clearly because somebody is on her way, or being a left-handed can make her difficult to write), wave hello to her just to let her know Im back, wait till they going out the room, check her notes, buy her ice cream if she got stars or she wrote her notes completely, scold her if not ( Sorry Im just mean sometimes), walk her home, take jeep, walk, then greet somebody in the house, help her change clothes, help her do assignments and study, let her play or watch t.v, nap for several minutes, take a shower, prepare for dinner, feed her during dinner time, eat dinner, clean the mess in the kitchen, take her to sleep, clean the bedroom for some mess, take a shower, brush hair and do some women's routine before to sleep, eat some midnight snacks with my husband, if we get bored we do joyride on his motor and go to the City to have some friend chicken skins with flour then you put it on the hot sauce or vinegar with lots of chilies. Then go home, take a shower ( I really hate to sleep when I feel messy, and also it is very hot here in the Philippines) and finally go to sleep to face tomorrow's day.

Tuesday, June 28, 2011

Some of my friends

At Wilson's house having some drinks

3rd Avenue


picnic with friends

Obeying the rules is a must

Few weeks ago, I was taking Queencie to school. We were trying to cross in the pedestrian lane, which is actually a legal way on crossing because you dont want to be caught by police because of jaywalking. Then while crossing this stupid car was honking on us. Hello man? are you blind? We were already on the PEDESTRIAN LANE you stupid ass. I wanna shout and get mad to that but I didn't do it of course, I can control my self temper. But I was just mad...really really mad that time. Its like they don't know the traffic rules are they? If so why are they doing that? Because there's no police in sight? Or are they just too forgetful? Or just plain stupid? How the hell they passed in the driving lesson? How they could have such driving licence? Many cars do that, not only once but several times I had experience the same incident. That's just stupidity. What the hell. Also how about the police? what are they doing? Are they just sipping drinks and munching potato chips while there's something more important to do than watching basketball games on television? or are they just pretending to be blind on reality? They just get lazy so they do nothing and when they feel on doing their job they would just caught someone even though he didn't violate the rules because the policeman wants some money to buy more beer? Im not talking about ALL policemen here. Im talking about SOME.
 I think we need more discipline within ourselves. We have to help each other not only people that around us but our own too. We need to have courage on doing that. I think some people have self-discipline but arent doing that anymore because they could see all the people around them are not being discipline so what's the point?
 Im signing off for now..don't want to think about it too much.

Monday, June 27, 2011

101 Lists to get you


PART 1
1.       It was late September
2.       The woman received a quote from the Bible
3.       She didn’t know who was the sender
4.       It was only the number that was not listed on her phone contacts
5.       She got curious
6.       She started to dial the mysterious number and only heard the voicemail message which owned by a man
7.       It said” Sorry I cannot answer your call please leave a message after the tone”
8.       She didn’t left a voicemail
9.       She started to text the man
10.   “Who are you? Did we met already? “
11.   No response

PART 2

12.   During a month ago
13.   The woman was working on the bistro
14.   She was a waitress
15.   The salary was poor
16.   She had coworkers
17.   One of them was her friend
18.   A guy
19.   She talked a lot with that guy
20.   They exchanged contact numbers
21.   They were exchanging phone calls and text messages
22.   They became good friends
23.   The guy has a brother
24.   An older brother
25.   She didn’t met his brother yet
26.   Who was working on the diner as a cook
27.   The diner is in Manhattan
28.   While the bistro is in Queens

PART 3

29.   Back late September
30.   When the woman received a mysterious message
31.   The woman was now working as a sitter in Franklin Avenue
32.   The salary was much better and higher
33.   She asked her guy friend about the mysterious message
34.   She asked if he knew the existing number
35.   The mysterious man’s number who sent her quote from the Bible
36.   The guy knew whose number that was
37.   “Its my brother’s number..”
38.   The woman was wondering how did he knew her number?
39.   Her precious number that she only giving it to whom she only knew
40.   How could it be?
41.   She wondered, “Maybe he stole it from my guy friend..”,
42.   But why stole it?
43.   She began to text the mysterious man again
44.   She asked him how did he got her number
45.   He told her, “I don’t know”

PART 4

46.   The woman and the man became acquaintances
47.   They were exchanging text messages for almost a month
48.   They were both busy from work that was keeping them from seeing personally
49.   The man wanted to meet the woman personally so he offered her dinner on a said bistro
50.   The bistro that once the woman had worked on
51.   She didn’t trust the man yet
52.   She told him he should take his younger brother with him so she can be with a friend while with some stranger
53.   The man just told her his brother didn’t want to come with them
54.   Only the two of them is going out

PART 5

55.   It was late October when they first met personally
56.   It was in 69th Street Roosevelt Avenue Queens New York
57.   The woman didn’t like the man and was afraid
58.   They walked toward the bistro while talking about the things that they had talked about through text messages days ago
59.   The woman felt comfortable now with the man
60.   They started to order food
61.   A very delicious food
62.   They ate and talked together
63.   They had a good time
64.   They rode on subway towards the woman’s apartment
65.   Its was late night
66.   He brought her up to the doorstep and said goodbye
67.   He texted the woman after he got home
68.   He waited
69.   And waited
70.   The woman didn’t text back

PART 6

71.   A week later
72.   The woman returned a message hello
73.   The man was surprised that she texted him again
74.   He felt happy
75.   The woman misses their talks so she texted him again
76.   They started talking through texts again
77.   Until the woman invited the man to the FREE movie in Manhattan
78.   The movie’s title was Boy A
79.   It was about the story of the little boy
80.   The boys was raised in the prison all of his younger years until he became a teenager
81.   Which made him innocent from real world
82.   The real life
83.   Which made the movie unique
84.   They were the first ones to watch the movie and rate it
85.   Rate it if it should be right to show it publicly
86.   Because of the scenes that were not suitable for very young age
87.   Let say it has kissing scenes and erotic actions
88.   Stuff like that
89.   Anyway they enjoyed the movie
90.   It was a great movie at Union Square
91.   Its was late night they rode the subway
92.   They became very good friends

PART 7

93.   Several weeks passed
94.   They went for park strolling and eating trips
95.    They became very close that the man was texting her “I love you” message
96.   But the woman is not responding back yet answer
97.   Because she wanted to hear the words from his voice through her ears
98.   And that happened on 22nd of November 2007 late fall in New York’s biggest park
99.   He whispered to her “I LOVE YOU”, she answered back 3 days after
100.                        They became lovers
101.                        They got married February 10, 2010



This song reminds me of how we first met :)